Meet Reverend_Syn

Each month, we have a chance to interview and profile someone that is involved in the Ontario kink community in this section.

This month, I had a chance to interview Reverend_Syn, who is the Chief DM at Hellfire Club, and supports a number of other community events in the Burlington area.

In the infancy of the internet, digital porn wasn’t the All You Can Eat buffet that it is today.  In those days there were no streaming movies to quench the thirst of perverts worldwide, suited to every niche from butt-sniffing to foot worship, and from bondage to bukkake. In those days, a 22-year old Reverend_Syn coaxed his 14.4 dial-up modem to browse webpages, waiting for text and pictures that were loading excruciatingly slow. Fresh out of a relationship, he was reading a newsgroup when he saw a user mention a website called Alt.com.
Several years before, he had realized that when it came to sex, he was always craving something ‘outside the box’, something that he couldn’t define, but that he knew wasn’t the same sex he’d been having, and that his friends were having. He found himself and his partners exploring their boundaries. He didn’t know how to label what they did together – he just knew that he loved every minute of it. The chance to explore his growing fantasies didn’t always present itself in his relationships, but it became more important to him over time.

In recent years Reverend_Syn has switched focus from the online kink community, to the real world kink community. Living in Burlington, Ontario, he and his wife (Shadow-girl) have been involved with creating a number of social events for their local community, and have witnessed an explosion of kinksters interested in meeting friends and learning new things. Prior to that, kinksters in Burlington had been traveling to Toronto and Niagara to ‘get their kink on.’

In talking with Reverend_Syn, he shared that he really enjoys that the kinky community allows him to be who he really is, and has given him a greater sense of belonging. Getting to know other kinksters has also helped he and his wife craft their D/s relationship.  While having a young child in the house sometimes makes it difficult to live the lifestyle 24/7, they have worked together to find ways to implement aspects of dominance and submission into their daily lives.

Communicate, communicate, communicate!” says Reverend_Syn when asked about the best piece of advice he’s been given while exploring kink. “I know it’s cliche but it’s so important, and it can’t be stressed enough. This is the single thing that will make your journey (together) much more enjoyable and fulfilling.”

“Our relationship is constantly changing and evolving as we redefine our wants, needs and what it is we want from our relationship. After all, those things that defined our relationship a year or two ago, most likely aren’t all applicable now!”

“My position with Hellfire Club (as Chief Dungeon Monitor) has also brought me into contact with some amazing people, that I love working with!”

As Chief DM, he is tasked with scheduling volunteers and making Hellfire Club the safest place it can be, by inspecting equipment, training the volunteers, and trying to facilitate the interesting scene ideas that guests run by him for approval.

“A of of our guests think outside the box, and we want people to have the kind of fun at the party that they have come to expect from Hellfire Club. We do our best to make those interesting scenes possible, and ensure that the DMs and DAs (Dungeon Attendants) are able to provide a clean, safe, enjoyable time in the dungeon.”

In the near future, Reverend_Syn will be presenting a workshop for anyone interested in being a DM or DA at Hellfire Club, or other play parties in Ontario. Visit our website event page soon for more details.