Meet M1LL1E!

A new kinkster every month!

M1LL1E is well known for her beautiful smile, but there’s so much more to her!  The 24 year old from Welland has really jumped headfirst into the kink pool so to speak! She can often be seen tied up, or otherwise restrained at play parties, screaming in pain, and whimpering in pleasure.

She can’t place exactly when she realized she was kinky, but remembers always wondering if there were other’s like her out there.  Around the age of 18, she read a book that contained a lot of sexual and kink undertones and realized that others must share the same desires.  A few years later she was introduced to FetLife.com and has had quiet the journey since!

“What I like most about being kinky is to be able to let go of the societal image and be my slutty sexual self” – M1LL1E

Upon learning that Niagara had a real-life kink community she set her mind to attending a munch, and quickly made friends.  She’s met an interesting cast of characters, and in the process met Mr_Bohemian, her Sir.  His dominance brought out her submission, and they’ve engaged in a casual D/s relationship (as opposed to 24/7 and 365) and developed a deep bond.

“I am owned and collared by Mr_Bohemian and we are exploring and learning still within our own time, but have established a deep bond.  We’ve been together for about a year and have evolved from simply playing to a deeper desire to fill the other’s kink needs,” says M1LL1E. “We have absolute open and honest communication, and its the key to making things work.”

“Sir has carte blanche to do with me as he pleases, anytime, anywhere. He understands and respects my limits and I trust him to do so.”

So what’s been the hardest thing that M1LL1E has had to grapple with as she began to explore kink?

“I think the biggest problem I’ve faced while crafting my kink relationship is learning to communicate. I’ve never been a good communicator and negotiations were a bit difficult for me. I’ve learned to just say what needs to be said and it usually goes well. Communicating my desires and needs was hard at first but I’ve got the hang of it now – for the most part! I still sometimes blush! I wish I didn’t though!

Having seen M1LL1E play at Hellfire Club first hand, I can say she’s had some extremely hot scenes!

“The hottest scene I’ve ever had happened at a play party. Sir blind folded me first and we used a large padded table. Sir had bound my arms behind me from elbow to wrist straight down. He then helped me up onto the table and put a bamboo stick behind my knees while I was kneeling. He proceeded to tie rope around my legs and the bamboo so that once he was done I couldn’t move my legs. I couldn’t close them or straighten them. He brought me forward so that my cheek was against the table and my ass was up in the air. He used a paddle and canes on me…I can’t even remember what else because I had spaced out by the end of it! It was the most erotic experience I’ve ever had. I was on full display, bound in front of everyone and it was amazing!”

Those incredibly intense play scenes come with a price though. M1LL1E remembers when she first experienced the highs and lows that often occur during and after a scene.

“When I first started playing I wasn’t familiar with a lot of the feelings that were going through me. I didn’t know what ‘sub drop’ was or how to deal with it. I was afraid to ask anyone else for help because I didn’t want to seem weak. I ended up reaching out to someone, and after being informed of what it was, I did some more research online. I don’t like feeling lost so I learned as much as I could. It still happens, but now I’m able to better deal with it and know what I need when it happens. I’ve gotten a lot of really great input from people in the community and enjoy it greatly.”

Many people say it’s good to face your fears, but what about when that fear is running into a family member at a kinky event?  It’s a small world after all…in fact, so small that M1LL1E had to actually  discuss her kinky side with her mother. It turns out that both of them discovered FetLife.com at around the same time, and that made for some challenging conversations.

“The first conversation we had about it was a bit awkward.  I was mortified, but it got better from there. We’re pretty at ease with each other and talk openly about it. We have had to make a few compromises when it comes to parties, however. I don’t feel comfortable playing when she is at a party that I’m at. I either won’t go (if I know she’ll be there), or I just won’t play while she is there. We’ve worked it out so that sometimes she’ll come late so I can play before she gets there. If she ends up playing, I go elsewhere for that time. That’s the only awkwardness so far.  I dont mind that she knows what I’m up to.  I don’t have her on my friends list though, I would prefer that she not see my pictures and she doesn’t mind because it allows her to make her own network of friends too.”

M1LL1E is full of hopes and dreams…dreams that she hopes will come true one day soon!

“I have a ‘pursuit and capture’ fantasy that I would love to explore. I want to be captured and used without any chance of escape. I’ve never explored that fantasy yet. I have talked about it though, so hopefully sometime in the future it will happen! (she giggles) I’d like to be set free in the woods somewhere and given a head start. Then I’d be chased down and taken, in more ways than one.”

When she isn’t spending time with her Sir, or dreaming about being stalked and ravaged in a forest, M1LL1E enjoys reading. Her favourites are romance and erotica, but she often ventures into the paranormal and suspense genres.

“Other than that I guess I just enjoy living life to it’s fullest and enjoying my family. I’m rather quite boring actually…maybe that’s why I like a non-boring sexual life!” (adorable giggle)