Meet…Sprinkl3s!
This month we sit down for a chat with Sprinkl3s, who probably has the best moustache we’ve ever seen…
Q: How did you first realize you were kinky?A: I don’t think there was a definitive moment when I realized “I am kinky”. It was a gradual process of self discovery, and of slowly opening up to myself and to others. Having access to the internet from a young age allowed me to explore my sexuality, and discover fetishes that I might otherwise never have found. Discussing D/s seriously for the first time with my current partner was the biggest step towards accepting myself- expressing myself since then has only gotten easier.
Q: How do you define yourself, and why?
A: I define myself as a “switch”. I enjoy topping in a scene, and I very much love being the Dominant in my primary D/s relationship; however, I do have an interest in being bound, and toyed with as well. I am not a masochist, the thought of submitting doesn’t particularly turn me on either, but I feel comfortable letting go of control sometimes, and embracing new sensations.
Q: What is the quality you look for most in a partner?
A: A partner that is open and honest is what’s most important to me as those are the qualities which make negotiation possible. I also look for intelligence, integrity, and a sense of humour. Being comfortable in one’s own skin is important to me; I find I am attracted to many different people and that’s based on how they carry themselves. I don’t believe that people have “another half”, and it’s important to me that any partner I have realize they are a fully complete and distinct individual outside of our relationship.
Q: What is your favourite toy?
A: I have a small leather bridle paddle with a flexible steel insert… That toy is magic in my hand, it’s lightweight, easy to control, and makes the most satisfying sounds no matter where I’m swinging from. Natural fibre rope has become a material that I am fascinated with. I love the raw textural qualities- the feeling of the jute passing through my hands and being laid across skin really electrifies me.
Q: What was your favourite scene, and why was it?
A: I recently had a very intense scene with two partners- it was incredibly erotic to co-top, and to feel the energy exchange between all of us. When you have another set of hands there to help soothe your bottom, while at the same time you’re working away with a crop, the bottom can take more and last considerably longer. It’s also incredible how much more mind-fucking is possible when you have a good cop and a bad cop so to speak.
Q: Is there a fetish that you’re particularly drawn to?
A: Face slapping was something that I was a bit hesitant about at first, but is something I regularly enjoy now. I love when the energy in a scene builds to a well placed slap; face slapping emphasizes the power dynamic in a very real and visceral way which I find is great for the scene.
Q: What is the biggest mistake you’ve seen a kinkster make, either during a scene, or while navigating the community?
A: I’ll preface this by saying generally the community as a whole is warm, welcoming, and strives for inclusivity as well as respect of people’s limits and property, including other people. I have experienced non-consensual touching of my property before, which is wrong no matter where you are, or what you do/don’t identify as. I personally believe that it’s wrong to exercise dominance over anyone who hasn’t consented to that power exchange.
Q: What is your biggest hobby?
A: Outside of practicing kink I have a longstanding interest in photography (particularly analogue practices), and I recently began woodworking. I find a hobby very rewarding when it challenges me intellectually, artistically, and physically. A hobby that leaves me with a final finished product which can be improved upon allows my passion to fully consume me.
Q: How do you describe your relationship dynamic?
A: The most important point I make when describing my relationship is that I refuse to compare it against any other relationship, or to any “standard” set by society. The dynamic that my partner and I enjoy is one that works for us; it is fluctuating, evolving, and changing as we both are in our daily lives. We address issues and concerns as they arise, and try out things which interest us. Ultimately what it boils down to is that the final decision in matters belongs to me, and I respect that my partner trusts my judgment about what is best for us.
Q: What has been the hardest kink related struggle that you experienced?
A: The largest struggle is accepting that what I do is ultimately an enriching and satisfying emotional experience for me. Just like most individuals, I was socialized to adhere to normalized behaviour, and for most of my life have been told men must behave a certain way, look a certain way, and even feel emotions a certain way. Working past that conditioning takes a lot of time and work. Usually when I’m experiencing top drop I fall into the old trap of judging myself based on what society expects from me; talking with my partner about our playtime and our dynamic helps me to recognize that my behaviour is appreciated. BDSM opens us up to many powerful and rewarding emotional and physical experiences, so ultimately working past feelings of judgement is critical to enjoying my time on this earth.
Q: What has been the most exciting kinky thing you’ve done?
A: Playing at a party for the first time was really a thrill: the music, the lights, the people, the great energy all around you. Rough sex with multiple partners also is high on my list, thank you!
Q: What do you hope to explore in the future?
A: I am exploring my interest with rope, so I hope to continue practicing- and loving every minute of it. I am passionate about the practice because even in that there is an incredible amount of room for creative and personal expression. There is much beauty in both the process and the product of Shibari.
Q: If you could have a scene with any person, who would you choose, and what would you do?A: Julie Newmar from the 1960s Batman series, obviously in her Catwoman costume, many assorted lengths of rope, it really doesn’t matter what happens from there…
Q: Is there something about yourself that you’d like the readers to know about?
A: I enjoy listening to Boards of Canada while I play; the lack of any discernible lyrics helps me get into the best headspace
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